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Transform your relationship dynamic & thrive together

Guided Online Imago Couple’s Sessions That Create
Safety & Connection

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Is this you?

Emotionally exhausted | stuck in a dysfunctional pattern | frustrated | resentful | disconnected | hurt | unheard | unmet needs | relationship feels unsafe | emotional chaos | instability | dissatisifed | recurring fights | escalating conflict | volatile communication | high reactivity |enemies not partners

How can imago sessions help us?

  • Re-establish or build emotional safety & connection

  • Identify, own, and express your needs

  • Break the negative communication cycle

  • Stop projecting and start taking responsibility for yourself

  • Identify and resolve childhood experiences impacting your relationship

  • Re-romanticise: Bring back the play, exploration, and satisfying sex

  • Learn a structured process for healthy communication

  • Stop waiting for each other to change and start growing as a team

  • End your power struggle and move into conscious relationship

  • End the emotional chaos and create stability and harmony

  • Deeply understand your partner

  • Feel deeply understood by your partner

  • Stop the blame, criticism and defensiveness

  • Learn how to communicate safely, vulnerably and constructively

The relationship journey

If you're reading this you're likely past the romantic phase of a relationship and feeling stuck in the power struggle. 

Many couples get stuck here and struggle forever. Others end their relationships. 

There is another way. With the right support, learning, and growth, you can evolve out of the power struggle and into mature, conscious love.

The choice is yours.
 

What happens in a session?

You don't need to keep having the same destructive interactions in the same painful way.

 

I guide you through a calm, structured process (The Imago Dialogue) that helps you slow down, understand each other more deeply, and begin shifting the space between you.

 

Together, we identify your negative cycle, understand the deeper needs and relational knot, and begin shifting to a healthier way of relating.

I guide you each step of the way

Change takes time and practice. I will facilitate new ways of listening to each other and new ways of speaking.

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1. Pause and regulate

  • Slow down

  • Ground

  • Create space before reacting

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2. Notice whats happening

  • Feelings

  • Triggers

  • Sensations

  • Needs
     

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3. Turn towards your partner

  • Attune

  • Listen without an agenda

  • Stay curious

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4. Practice Imago Dialouge

  • Mirror

  • Validate

  • Express emphaty

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5. Move towards connection

  • Use new language

  • Chose a constructive next step

  • Practice small shifts

What results can I expect?

After your first session:

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  • A simple process to keep communication constructive

  • A feeling of being heard and/or deeply hearing your partner

  • An experience of a healthy and safe conversation with your partner

  • An experience of soothing your nervous system

  • Feeling more connected to your partner

  • An understanding of your default relationship pattern

  • One or two practical shifts to try at home

  • A clearer sense of the work ahead

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After a few sessions:

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  • Fewer conversations that spiral out of control

  • More skill in pausing before reacting

  • Better listening without immediately defending

  • The ability to speak honestly without attacking

  • More empathy for each other’s inner world and reality

  • Understanding of old wounds and current triggers

  • Less repetition of the same painful argument

  • Effective repair after conflict

  • Greater emotional safety between you

  • More confidence using the Imago dialogue process

  • More clarity about each partner’s needs and fears

  • More moments of connection in daily life

  • Less shame, blame, and criticism

  • More teamwork when challenges arise

  • Dating, playing, and enjoying each other again

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Each couple’s journey is unique and results are shaped by the effort, change, and practice both partners bring between sessions.

About Roxana

Roxana Bouwer is an Imago facilitator who helps couples move from disconnection and distress toward deeper understanding, safety, and connection. She creates calm, compassionate spaces where partners can slow down, listen differently, and begin to shift the painful patterns that keep them apart.
 

With a background in copywriting, mindful communication, coaching, and contemplative practice, Roxana brings a rare blend of language, presence, and emotional insight to her work.

After an early career in traditional copywriting, she felt called to use her skills in service of deeper transformation — helping people communicate in ways that heal, connect, and bring more consciousness to relationships.
 

Through an Imago-informed approach, Roxana supports couples to move beyond blame and reactivity, and toward more honest dialogue, empathy, and repair. She believes that even relationships in distress can become places of healing, growth, and renewed possibility.
 

Roxana is a certified Professional Imago facilitator. She holds a degree in Linguistics and Communication Science, and is a qualified Martha Beck Wayfinder coach, iRest Yoga Nidra meditation guide, and yoga teacher.

Who am I & how can I help?

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A decade ago I didn’t have a clue how to be a safe partner in a functional relationship.

Not only did I not know how to get my needs met, I didn’t even know that it was okay to have needs!
 

When I met the wonderful man (who’s now my soon-to-be husband), I had to level up. If we hadn’t both committed to growing, the pain we were causing each other would have ended our relationship early.

The two game-changing books that are either on my desk or in my bag. 

Every unaddressed childhood need surfaced. It was like a floodlight turned on and there was nowhere to hide.
 

We both made a conscious decision to show up and do the work because we knew we wanted to stay together. That decision became our shared anchor and the start of working like a team.
 

Reading Helen and Harville Hendrick’s book “Getting The Love You Want” felt like someone was describing exactly what we were experiencing and showing us a way out.

Greg and I on the last day of an Imago couple's workshop.

Through my own experience, I’ve seen how severely the state of your intimate relationship impacts your mental, emotional, and physical health.
 

I am deeply motivated to help as many couples as I can make their way to conscious, healthy love.
 

I believe in Imago and I believe in you. I’m here for you and offer you everything I can in support of your relationship.

Facilitating Imago dialogues with awesome supervisors and peers for the African Leadership Institute for Community Transformation.

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What clients say

"Money can never do justice or say thank you to your investment in taking care of us. Thank you so very much."

C.

"K and I can't stop talking about our first session. Thank you for getting us thinking and expanding the way we view the world and each other. It was very gratifying having that experience and we feel a lot closer." 

S.

"I saw a part of M I hadn't seen before. I saw him being quite vulnerable, which is rare—and in a place that is safe and conflict free. I really appreciate your work and I have found it far more valuable than I even expected."

E. 

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Address

Online Sessions: All over the world
In-Person Sessions: Montagu, South Africa

Contact

+27845003630

Opening Hours

Mon - Fri

8:00 am – 8:00 pm SAST

roxana@roxanabouwer.com

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Why The Imago Process Works

If you don't feel emotionally safe with your partner, nothing constructive can happen. From your first session you will experience and practice creating safety together. This is the starting point for freeing yourselves from dysfunctional patterns.

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The Space Between

The unique relational space between you and your partner is my client. I will guide you in clearing out the pollution between you as you learn how to keep the space safe, healthy, and thriving. 

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Safety & Connection

The Imago dialogue process is structured, clear, and practical. This creates a foundation of safety because you know what to expect. As a facilitator I will help you process, in real time, any reactivity that surfaces on a verbal or somatic (body) level. 

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Growing & Stretching

As you and your partner get comfortable owning and expressing your relational needs in healthy ways, a natural willingness and ability to meet those needs for each other arises. Suddenly, you're spiraling upwards into greater levels of connection, freedom, and wholeness.

Change How You're Communicating

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A healthy relationship looks like everyone's needs being met within a stable, safe and connected relationship ecosystem. 

The pain, frustration, and desperation you feel in your relationship point to unmet needs. 

Before you can address those, you have to change how you're communicating with each other. 

A facilitated imago dialogue enables you to communicate constructively whether you're the speaker or the listener. 

When safety is reestablished between you and your partner connection, growth, and harmony can be restored.
 

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